There are many forms of surrender, and many reasons why someone might desire to participate in surrender.
For some it may simply be fun, like going on a roller coaster ride. It can be a challenge. An achievement. Of experiencing an alternative to normal, everyday life. A way of exercising physical or emotional capabilities. A way of practicing intimacy or spirituality in a deeper way. Or for many other reasons than the ones I’ve mentioned.
And if you might want to have a form of surrender, a next question is, how do you do that responsibly?
Which can be a bit of a contradiction. In surrender, there’s some way, in some form, to some degree, in which you want to not need to choose, to not have a choice, to be helpless, or powerless.
To not be responsible. You can’t be responsible for something you don’t have power over.
And so to be responsible for choosing how you want not to have responsibility might sometimes be… unappealing, perhaps.
What can help is to break it down into steps.
For a surrender you want to have…
For your partner…
Which might seem like a lot. Yet consider this: if you put in the preparation, you can have a deeper experience. You can let go, relax, not be worried about what might happen. You can do more than you otherwise would be able to do.
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