Requirements, Wants, Willingness, and Limits
We often focus on limits in BDSM because limits are so
important. Focusing just on limits however can lead us to
neglecting what we desire.
This is a framework I learned from Marcia Baczynski that I
often find useful:
- Requirements are what you must have in
order to participate at all.
- Wants are the things that you want, that you desire
for yourself. You don’t necessarily need to
get everything you want, but you at least need to
get some of them to make an activity worthwhile.
- Willingness are things that you’re willing
to do or experience, which you don’t care about one way or the other.
- And limits are the flip side of requirements: the
things that you must not have in an experience in order
to be able to participate.
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